Sex Drive and Stress

We all know by now that this is a rough time. There’s a global pandemic, racial tensions are high, and many of us are struggling to afford housing. I’ve noticed that many people have an increased sex drive or none at all. Unfortunately for me, I’m in the latter category.

When I’m stressed like this, sex is the furthest thing on my mind. I’ve had almost zero drive in months. I’m struggling with my anxiety, the constant threat of homelessness, and some trauma from relationships that went sideways. It’s a lot.

Yesterday was the first time since March that I wanted sex. I’m hopeful that this is a sign that it’ll be returning soon, but I’m going to be gentle with myself in the meantime. Thankfully I have a very patient & understanding partner.

Sometimes I can get in the mood by reading smut, or the excitement of a new sex toy, but lately my anxiety is so high I feel like I’m just treading water.

Loss of sex drive is something people don’t really talk about. It strains relationships, and can make one feel alone. Just remember, if you’re in the same boat as I am, it’s completely normal and you are NOT the only one.

About the author

Nonbinary femme-ish person. Latinx. Sex blogger. Poly. Photographer. Knitter. Makeup Artist. Bird & cat person. Converting to Judaism. Dominant Bottom. Fat. Trekkie. Tori Amos fanatic. Singer & songwriter. Disability Activist. Invisibly disabled: chronic pain patient with mental illness. Pansexual with a strong preference for women, cis or trans. They/them.

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